Sadness vs reality

What is sad?

A son crying in agony but the mother has no idea that he is in pain.
A wife who suffers in silence from years of abuse but refuses to stand up for justice.
A father who is left in the street by his own children to beg for food every time.
A struggling small timed chef being surrounded by mega food chains that easily make millions in a month.
A confused, rebellious and attention-hungry child stuck between two angry parents who hate each other.
A kitten that just lost its mother.
A mother that threw her baby in the toilet bowl.
A country that is slowly being wiped out of the map due to persistent oppression.
A doctor that misdiagnosed a heart attack with a normal benign muscle pain.

What is sad?

Understand vs habit

This is the usual conversation that i have with my son.

Son: where's Dad?
Me: Dad's working
Son: Oooo..

Honestly, i am not quite sure if he actually understands it, but the fact that he sounds like he does makes me smile everytime. Of course deep inside i'd say 'yeah right as if u understand what i'm saying..'.

I don't know what is actually going on in that beautiful mind of my two-year-old, but i surely hope it is something great. And i will always believe that he understands but acts like he doesn't (most of the time). Grrrrr....

Terrible two

When your baby is not a baby anymore, you will either be easily annoyed or easily annoyed. Honestly, there is no other option.

When they don't get something they want, they scream their lungs out. Loudly and with a decible that is piercingly irritating. Sometimes they wake you up in the middle of your very very deep sleep. As a result, you become an irritated monster.

When the tv is on and they don't get to watch their favourite show, they run away with the remote, rendering you to jump out of your comfortable couch fearing that they will change your favourite show when you are in the middle of finding out 'who is actually the killer..'.

When they sleep, they look so cute that you just want to wake them up..

Don't you just love your children.. :)

Our hearts are with you, MH17

Yesterday was a day in history for Malaysia. We were in solidarity to show our deepest condolence and respect to the victims of MH17.

My heart breaks again and again everytime i read on MH17, on how sad the families of the victims are, how heartbreaking it is to see a one year old son losing his father, a 9- year old son crying and insisting to see the remains of the mother, a mother losing her dutiful son, and a wife losing her soulmate matched in heaven.

There were stories of how great the victim as a father was, or a son, or a mother, or a friend. Only good stories about them and that is all that we needed to hear. There was one victim who once cried thinking of how heartbreaking it would be if his son would grow up as an orphan. Unfortunately, he is now an orphan whom we could just pray would grow up into a fine young man, just like his father once was.

May all your souls rest in peace..

What have we done

Any destruction is more often than not a result of one's own mistake. If one becomes fat, it is because one refuses to reduce the food intake or exercise. If one has poorly controlled diabetes, it is because that one is not compliant to taking the medicine. If an accident happens, it is because one refuses to rest and sleep at the R&R or drive slowly. If one gets addicted to drugs, it is because one wants to 'try out' something dangerous and act 'cool'. If there is a landslide, that is because of destruction of nature. By man.

So most of the time we are the ones that cause all the destruction around us. It is always difficult to undo our mistakes. The ice is melting. The weather is changing. The ozone layer is thinning. The corals are dying. Our genes are mutating. Soon everything will change.

Will we live a hundred years?

I am not the type who thinks much of the future. The reason being, I savour my present. But the real reason is, I am not one of those who think that I would be living till more than 60. I am never a negative thinker. More of a realist. I believe that anything can happen anytime and anywhere. It can be a depressing thought at times, but that never stops me to make sure that today is always better than yesterday. But tomorrow, is an uncertainty to me. I'd rather do everything today than to wait for tomorrow coz it might never come. Impatient maybe. But never a procrastinator.

MH 17 never saw a missile coming. Palestinian kids at the playground never noticed enemies lurking. Death does not come with an invitation. Enemies do not advertise their strategies. Earthquakes do not have a warning. Tsunamis just sweep whatever is along the way. No option is ever given.

moms vs dads

People like to post emotional videos on Facebook regarding a mom's first birthday, what do their children think of their mommies, and those kinds that when you watch, you just can't sop tearing up, no matter how strong you are. These videos are always moving and emotional. The best part is, they are all true.

What mothers do are always seen as amazing. They seem strong on the outside, but deep down, they have the same fear that other mothers have. And when she is seen as perfect, she on the other hand feels very inadequate. Mothers always look at themselves as not given enough, or spent enough time, or played enough time with their children, but the children will always adore and think that their mothers are superwomen and the most beautiful of all. 

don't you just love your mothers?

So where do dads stand? They are seen as the fierce ones who hold the last say. They are potrayed as the ones who come home late, looking all tired after working the whole day trying to make ends meet. They are rarely at home so that they can be out there to make money for the family. Well, that is the picture that we usually get. Children usually go to their dads to ask for money and when the children ask for it, dads never say no. Dads are always there to play with their children at the playground, or to toss them up high till they just can't stop laughing. Dads are the serious ones, but they are the ones that make the children laugh out loud every time they play.

don't you just love your dads?

Doctors vs communication skills

Poor attitude is an upbringing problem. If one lacks good advice from young, high chance he or she will have communication problem with others.

Excellent communication skill is a big part of being a doctor. Doctors should know how to talk to different kind of people to ensure that their knowledge and information are conveyed properly and effectively. This is a skill that does not develop overnight.

Even how tired or sleepy or angry doctors are, people always expect doctors to be in their best mood and behaviour. They expect compassion and sympathy from doctors for a problem as small as a splint in the toe. For doctors, most of the time it is play acting. We need to look as sympathetic as possible although deep inside we feel like laughing or crying (probably too amazed with the complaints that patients can come with). But it is easy to forget that for patients, that small problem is threateningly life changing.

So doctors, play act if you must.

If you can't, hang your whitecoats and leave the field.

Because of RM1

The value of RM1. If you convert it to sterling, it is equivalent to 20 pence. Just an example.

In Malaysia, RM1 can bring you a long way. You get to get treated by medical doctors or medical assistants and receive expensive medicine for free. I repeat, for free. Just for RM1 registration fee.

To most Malaysians, RM1 is not much, but there are still a lot of those who think that paying RM1 for every consultation as a burden. Maybe because they only have RM10 to spend for the whole week to look after five hungry children with a husband that does not care. That, IS a sad story.

But, there are cocky Malaysians who make a big deal out of RM1 and refuse to pay just because they think they deserve free consultation. When insisted to pay, they would throw RM1 note over the table claiming that it is 'just RM1' and 'of course they could pay!'.

What's with the attitude?

This is Malaysia with RM1.

Beauty of nature vs destruction

When humans do not follow rules and regulations, nature suffers. It bears the cost of destruction due to human error and greed. As a result, generations of children miss out. Beautiful sight does not happen overnight. It is a slow process that takes thousands of years. Just because of one mistake committed by man for one second, the beauty is destroyed for eternity.

I just came back from a snorkelling trip to one of the most beautiful islands in the world. What i saw a few days back was nothing near to what i saw 10 years ago. Coral reefs are dead. The water is not as clear. The fishes don't look that great either. Plastic bottles float with pride. The natives don't seem to bother anymore.

Sigh. What a waste.

Computer games vs losing your soul

Computer games are addictive. And equally destructive. It sells your soul to space without you noticing it. Your time and attention are so consumed with playing it that you forget how green your backyard is. Or how colourful butterflies are. Or how lovely being a part of a family is. You forget. And then You just don't care anymore. By that time, you have lost your soul. Your family. And those who love you.

I have relatives who sit in front of the computer for hours that they cannot communicate anymore. They become anti-socials. They become lazy. They become rude. They become mute. They become stupid. They become unsuccessful. They become fat. And they become unloveable anymore.