Useless mother i am..

I was talking to one of my staff the other day. She is a mother of four lovely boys.

She told me that the night before her 2 year-old son woke her up at 2 am and said,
"Mummy, i want an egg"..

So what she did was that she woke up, boiled an egg and gave it to her son. At 2 o'clock in the morning.

What would I have done in the same instance? I would tell my son to go back to bed and sleep. And if he starts crying, I'd probably raise my voice and put him outside the room to cry on his own till he stops.

Damn i feel so useless. There is still so much patience and motherly compassion that i need to muster.

Uncertain future

I just finished reading a newspaper article on a story of a couple that got married after a four-month 'telephone' relationship. They saw once before any sparks even ignited, and that was just a five-minute hasty meeting. Then the relationship grew over the phone in that four months. When they decided to meet, they tied the knot. In just four months.

Who would have guessed that a marriage could be done in such haste. Who could have imagined what lies ahead unless you miraculously dreamt of it. Life is extremely uncertain. But it is full of surprises. Whether they are good or bad, we will have to face them and savour them. Who would have expected that the above couple who knew each other for four months are now happily married with a beautiful 2 year-old son. Who would have guessed that the man that you were engaged with for 2 years finally decided to leave you. Who would have guessed that the wife you adored decided to fall for another guy? Who would have guessed that the awaited baby for nine months just had to die immediately after birth...

No one would have guessed any of that. We take life as it comes. But we should always be ready of any trials and tribulations that might hit us hard suddenly. Unknowingly. And when hit low, we should stand up tall again. Afterall, this life is not the end of everything. It is just a start of an investment of how we would be like in the life hereafter.

Unwanted babies

The difference between Malaysia and other countries, is that you can only find babies in toilet bowls/rubbish dumps/drains in Malaysia. It happens on a monthly basis that it sounds like a norm and the 'in' thing to do nowadays. A lot of women and married couple wait for years to hold a precious baby in their arm. And when we hear of unwanted babies chucked in the manhole, it just becomes repulsively unimaginable.

I am not asking the society to condone to pre marital sex that usually leads to this phenomenon, but i urge you to be more supportive and understanding of those teenagers or unmarried women who might have got pregnant unwillingly. Parents should forgive and support their teenage daughters if they made a mistake. The lives of the innocence should not be violently taken away for fear that society might reject them of their past mistakes. Who are we to judge those who have wronged. God is ever forgiving.

Do it right

Our children will sometime refuse to listen to us. Most of the time they ignore our instructions. But they never fail to do what we do.

Actions speak louder than words.

Do it right.

Doctors, stop telling the world that you hate your job.

People who dedicate their lives doing voluntary work are a bunch of amazing people. They do their 'thing' without complaining or sighing. Their hearts are so pure that we could easily fall in love with them anytime. They are usually very humble, very pleasant and extremely helpful. Their dedication for humanity is priceless.

So i went to this volunteering induction programme last week. We were asked to introduce ourselves and tell everyone why were we there on that day. 95% said they wanted to help people.

Then i went back home to go through the internet and saw a bunch of articles and status and tweets written by depressed, frustrated, angry, and sad doctors. They vent out their dissatisfaction and anger freely on Facebook for the world to know how 'difficult' their lives have been for being 'doctors'. They forgot for a while that they get paid to do great things for helpless people in need. Do doctors nowadays have what it takes to be doctors? Or should they just resign and be volunteers instead?

Doctors should refrain themselves from moping too excessively coz what should have been seen as noble wouldn't be noble anymore when all patients hear is complaints of how tired or annoyed their doctors are for attending to them. Geeeshhh..

Back to being a child

Very old people will always be confused, say things that might hurt others, or be forgetful, or say things that we might not understand at all. They have a completely diferent language at times. At the end, we get easily annoyed.

They are no different to children.

Like what has been said before us,
" those whom We have given an extended life, they will go back to how they start.."
Well not exactly word by word, but pretty much what it means..

So be patient with our elderly as we have been informed.

EVERY SINGLE NIGHT...

So this is what i go through every night.

8:30pm.
Hubby tells me that it is time for our toddler to go to bed.

8:45pm.
Toddler is still playing with his toys

9:00pm.
Calls toddler and tells him that it is bedtime. Toddler says that he wants to watch his favourite cartoon. Hubby and i say No. Toddler cries for 5 minutes. Pacify toddler and hug him and cuddle him for a bit.

9:15m.
Toddler asks for milk. Hubby makes milk. I walk with toddler upstairs, put him in his bed and let him finish his milk. I switch off the lights. Once finished, toddler gets out of bed. He wants to read the book.

9:30pm.
I switch the lights on again. Read the book with him. Quickly. Then closes it and says again (with a more stern voice) that it is time to sleep. Toddler cries again for 5 minutes. I switch the lights off.

9:45pm.
I place toddler in his bed. Again. Closes the door. Calls hubby upstairs. Hubby and i lie beside him. Pretending to sleep. Toddler rolls around and crawls on our body. We get irritated. Hubby raises his voice demanding toddler to stop whatever he is doing and sleep. Toddler cries again. I hug and cuddle toddler.

10:00pm.
Toddler is asleep. Hubby and i are in deep sleep..

Perfect Man

So now on Mix fm they are busy talking about whether there is such as thing as The Perfect Man.

I remember this joke that was told to me a few years back.

In a lift there were a lady and three men (Superman, a teacher, and The Perfect Man), and suddenly the lights went out. And when it came back up, it was found that the lady was stabbed in the chest. So the question is, who could have possibly killed the lady? The answer is simple. The teacher. Why? Because the other two don't exist.

How true is this? Seriously, there is no such thing as The perfect man? Some may disagree. Most would agree coz in reality, there is no perfect man for everyone, but there is probably a perfect man just for you..

Knowing and doing whats right

We know what is right and what is wrong. And we get reminded every now and then of the should dos and shouldnts. We know. We have always known. We will always know. The light has been shown upon us.

But executing it seems very difficult.

So how do we start to go about and do it?

Keep praying that we have the strength to do it. One step towards God, a few steps He is closer to us.