Love your children. They are residents of heaven.

There are so many articles and talks emphasising on good communication between partners. The problem with the society in this country is that a lot of us are too used to speak in a higher than usual tone, or simply not used to saying thank you, please and sorry. Parents fight in front of their children using harsh language and they seem to be oblivious of the facts that their behaviour is being copied by their children. After all, how bad or rough their parents are, children will still look up to their own. They still yearn for their attention and love. Even when they are terribly hit and abused, they will still run towards their parents and not away from them.

If children are allowed to choose with whom they want to hug at times they are sick and in pain, they will still choose their parents regardless of how much their parents might not care about them. How sad.. If you have seen victims of abuse at a young age, you will cry to see how inhumane some people are and how unfair life is to these helpless kids.

Once they grow bigger and wiser, then they will start to distance themselves from their parents. By that time, it will be too late for parents to undo their mistakes. Adolescent angst will prevail and continue till they leave the house for good.

Be good to your partner. Be loving and gentle. Apologise when mistakes are done. Say thank you when it is due. Be attentive to your children. Show them that you care. Hug them when they cry. Tell them that they are special. Do not hit because you are angry. Coz when you do, you will hit harder than you should. Never teach something when even we do not do it. Coz children are always better at copying than rationalising.